This weekend has been wonderful for us both. A lot of the reason why it has been so great is because we have been together. We really are the happiest when we are together and I am so grateful that I can share my life, my dreams, my testimony with someone so magnificent!!!
Friday night the institute was having a "Young Married Seminar." We decided to attend for our weekly date and I am very glad we did! The fireside speaker was very uplifting and encouraging. He had 6 points to help strengthen your marriage and he came up with a catchy phrase to help us remember. It was a much needed break and we were able to induldge in Costco pizza!!! Yum--it was so delicious because it was piled with cheese!
In case any one want to know what the "6 points to keep your marriage on track" are, I will write out my notes. His catchy phrase was 1-2-3-A-B-C.
1. You are the one. You have the power to make things happen. Be the change you want to see.
2. View. What is your vision? What do you expect to get out of your marriage? It is not enough to say "eternal life" because you need something now that you can grasp on to.
3. Deity. Do you include Heavenly Father in your marriage? Are you praying daily for your spouse but more than that praying with the intent to learn how you can bless your spouse? If you don't ask, you won't get the answers. Oh and I *love* this next part!!! If you pray for bread, often God will send rain. The rain will water the seed and grow. Eventually the wheat will be harvested and then milled and then turned into bread. It is so easy after the harvest to ask God where He was when you prayed for bread. He was right there all along it is just we can over look His answers. (Seriously, this was probably my favorite thought of the night!!)
A. Appreciation. The problems come in marriage when you aren't thankful. There is a power in saying thank you, it shows respect.
B. Believe the Best. Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Assume the good and doubt the bad.
C. Connection. C has to be more than just communication, you have to make the connection with your spouse. Everyday you need to connect both physically (holding hands, hugging, kissing) and emotionally (listening).
Saturday morning, I woke up with the best idea for how to teach my "SMART Home" topic to my 7th graders. I was stuck because everything I could find was SOOOOO boring and the kids would hate it! I wanted to make it something they are so excited about that they are eager to go to college and learn because in reality my 7th graders (and younger) will be the ones who make this technology actually possible. There is a dream right now and I want to plant seeds in my students not make them build walls. I have been thinking about this for a while and just kept hitting dead ends. I am thankful for the early morning inspiration that came to me! :)
In the evening we went to our Stake Conference Adult Session. I just love being in a married student stake. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity and it is such a blessing to have us all riding in the same boat together. All of the talks were so applicable to our life right now. I loved that! One of the stake presidency counselors shared an interesting statistic. 95+% of our stake has been through the temple and holds current temple recommends. I bet this is the only time in our life when that number will be so high! The talk was focused on returning to the temple and how we really will find safety while we are there. Our stake president talked about some defining moments in our lives and how to allow differences to strengthen our marriage. This was his first Stake Conference to preside over and I think he did a marvelous job! And as an extra special treat, we had BYU brownies afterwards and were given cute bags of M&Ms. Happy tummy! ;)
This morning we went to the Stake Conference broadcast. The conference was being broadcast to all of Utah and Wasatch counties which is about 1/2 million members. Wow! I loved an idea shared by Sis. Julie B. Beck. I don't think I wrote it down exactly correctly but I tried--it is at least a good paraphrase of her comment! "It is work to be a mother in latter days. I worry about you young mothers. Time spent on the computer lets life pass. Our children need us. The computer is no more valuable than a dishwasher or washing machine--it should help fulfill your daily tasks, not overtake them." It made me think of the things that really do matter the most in my life and honestly facebook is not something that is going to have eternal consequences. I haven't seriously been on facebook for over 4 weeks and you know, I don't really miss it either. I love having more time to spend with Casey! I am already SO busy with school and I'm grateful that I can give my spare moments to him!!
A great "take home" message from Pres. Packer's talk was when he was sharing a story about when he was a young seminary teacher. (I think the reason I loved it so much is because I am now a young teacher.) He went to a seminary teacher convention (can't remember what it is called. LoL!) and the presiding authority opened it up for questions and answers. Pres. Packer raised his hand and related the following scenario. He was so frustrated with one student in particular and honestly thought the kid made the best contributions when he wasn't there. He said the kid probably thought his name was "Johnny Stop" when he entered first grade because that was all he was ever told. Pres. Packer summarized his question to be "When can I kick him (the disruptive student) out of class?" The presiding authority, who I can't remember his name (if anyone who is reading this knows who the presiding person was, I would love to hear it in the comments!!), paused for a long moment and then finally replied, "What if he was your boy?" Those 6 words changed Pres. Packer's teaching career and life and I think it just changed mine too. I hope to remember that as I am teaching and come across the really difficult kids... "What if he was your boy?"
Later tonight, we are headed back to campus to listen to the CES broadcast. Elder Scott is speaking and I am SO excited to hear him! I love all of the general authorities but Elder Scott has a very special place in my heart because his words have touched me so much.