Saturday, August 21, 2010

Great Newlywed Advice!

Today is our 9 Month "Anniversary"!!!! :D  I love that each month is better than the one previous--not because our life is easy or problem free but because we continually work to make it better.  To celebrate this momentous occasion (it is our last single digit month anniversary), we are going to the temple and then later to the fair.  For breakfast this morning, I made Egyptian Eggs (I have heard them called SO many different things) with the center cut out into a heart! <3

Well, I thought I would share some excellent advice we heard about marriage.  I have heard a lot but this was probably some of my favorite and it really helps...  

Advice to the Newlyweds:
1. Divorce is NOT an option!  Never even mention the "D-Word" in your home or toward each other.
2. Drive to the temple!  Solve your problems there together.
3. Date your spouse every week!  Keep the love and excitement alive!

Happy 9 Month Anniversary!  I love you FOREVER!!!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

It Still Exists


chiv-al-ry [shiv-uhl-ree]
the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, includingcourtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms or gallant gentlemen

I thought chivalry was going out of style but I have been proven wrong.  I am used to my husband and very grateful for his generous and thoughtful actions but I didn't really think I would see many others using it anymore.  While we were riding the bus up to visit my grandparents and help them with yard work and vacuuming, a man left his seat for 3 women entering the bus so they could sit together.  I thought it was very gracious but then I realized that one of the women was blind and I kind of just blew off his noble action because of the disability.  Later on the same bus, two other men gave up their seats when a group of three teenage girls entered the bus.  This time really was impressive because their was no disability to involved--just the kindness of two strangers.  Later on TRAX, I watched a similar thing happen.  There were still some seats on the train but one lady was standing in the middle.  The gentleman sitting near her gave up his seat and then stood.  I thought this was so thoughtful because their were still some seats at the far ends of the train.

Yesterday at my first day of Education Week for this year, I walked into a class and it was very full.  I saw my husband and was trying to find a seat near him or two together so we could enjoy the class by each other.  (He is my best friend after all and I *love* spending time with him!!!)  Well, there was a seat behind him and that was about all I could find.  I told him I Love You in sign language and was sad that I would have to sit a row behind (but still grateful for a seat!).  Well, the person sitting next to Casey stood up and climbed over everyone so he could sit in the seat behind us.  It was so thoughtful of him and meant so much to me!

So thank you to the chivalrous men in the world.  It means a lot to me and I notice your  gallant efforts.

My Knight in Shining Armor! <3

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

The Price to Pay

Recently, I was pondering about the price you have to pay in order to gain anything.  When shopping at a store, the price is (hopefully) listed obviously on the shelf.  When going out to eat, the price of the food is listed on the menu.  But I'm not just talking about a physical price and spending money.  If you want to become a skilled seamstress then you have to sew.  If you want to become a master pianist then you have to practice.  If you want a rock solid testimony then you have to study.

When the May 2010 Ensign arrived at our apartment in the mail, I made a goal to read through every talk.  In the past, I would skim the talks and pick out my favorites to read and then kind of set it aside and use it as a great reference.  I have always listened to all of conference and I may have ended up reading the majority of past Conference issues.  This time though, I decided to do something different--I was going to read it "cover to cover."  (And by "cover to cover" I simply mean read every talk... I read them out of order and would jump all around the magazine.)

Some days I would read a couple of talks, others only a small section of one talk.  But, I did it! :D  I read through the entire magazine and just finished the last talk this morning.  The cover fell off--I repaired it with masking tape.  The pages are water stained--I smoothed it out the best I could.  The green highlighter is now dull--I learned to press hard so the color would show.

The stories and precious words became a part of my life.  It has changed me for the better and strengthened my marriage.  I feel so blessed and uplifted.  Listed below are some examples of how the words from the living apostles and prophets has touched my life.  (Warning: My favorite quote list is long but I will try to pick only the very best!)

I have reflected on the blessing given from President Thomas S. Monson, "Thank you, [Lisa,] for your faith and devotion to the gospel of Jesus Christ.  Thank you for all that you do in your ward... and in your stake....  You serve willingly and well and accomplish great good.  May the Lord bless you as you strive to follow Him and to obey His commandments" (paragraph 3).  Wow!!!  I feel like he talked to me directly and am now ready to conquer the world.

I love the gentle reminder from Sis. Julie B. Beck, "A good woman knows that she does not have enough time, energy, or opportunity to take care of all of the people or do all of the worthy things her heart yearns to do....  But with personal revelation, she can prioritize correctly and navigate this life confidently" (paragraph 4).  Um, talk about needing to hear that!!!  I always feel like I should be doing more.  This was great reassurance to just do my best!

I am grateful for the advice from Elder M. Russell Ballard, "Look to your mother.  Learn from her strengths, her courage, and her faithfulness.  Listen to her.  She may not be a whiz at texting; she may not even have a Facebook page (side note: my mom has figured out both!!).  But when it comes to matters of the heart and the things of the Lord, she has a wealth of knowledge.  As you approach the time the time for marriage and young motherhood, she will be your greatest source of wisdom" (paragraph 8).  Wow!  My mom is more valuable than books or even the internet!!!  I am so grateful she is one of my best friends!

I learned an important key from Elder David A. Bednar, "Regular reading of and talking about the Book of Mormon invite the power to resist temptation and to produce feelings of love within our families" (paragraph 12).  We could always use more love and protection in our lives.

I made a goal to become more like Elder Jefferey R. Holland.  He said, "True love must include the idea of permanence.  True love endures....  True love we are absolutely giddy about--as I am about Sister Holland; we shout it from the housetops" (paragraph 6).  This is 100% my dream!  I want to live to be a ripe old age and still feel giddy about my darling husband! :D

I think I might have a better understanding on patience now from Pres. Dieter F. Uchtdorf.  "...Patience was far more than simply waiting for something to happen--patience requires actively working toward worthwhile goals and not getting discouraged when results didn't appear instantly or without effort" (paragraph 13).  Still easier said than done but at least I know that patience does not mean I am merely waiting!

I have a better vision of what I want my home to be like thanks to Elder Richard G. Scott.  "...Resolved to make the Lord Jesus Christ the living center of your home.  Be sure that every decision you make, whether it be of a spiritual or physical nature, be guided by the thought, 'What would the Lord Jesus Christ have me do?' (side note: I totally like this question better than WWJD?!!!!)  When the Savior is the center of your home, it is filled with peace and serenity.  There is a spirit of calm assurance that pervades the home that is felt by the children and adults alike" (paragraph 22).  This is my top goal!  And something I work at everyday and could still greatly improve.  I really do want to make Christ the center of our home!!

I was reminded how to face opposition from Pres. Dieter F. Uchtdorf in the Young Women General Broadcast.  "My dear young [Lisa,] you need to know that you will experience your own adversity.  None is exempt.  You will suffer, be tempted, and make mistakes.  You will learn for yourself what every heroine has learned: through overcoming challenges come growth and strength.  It is your reaction to adversity, not the adversity itself, that determines how your life's story will develop" (paragraph 26-27).  Such a great reminder!  There are so many different and trying situations that we face.  It really isn't the trial but how I react to it.

The price to pay to have a testimony of the Living Prophet and Apostles is PRICELESS!!!

Sunday, August 8, 2010

a simple reminder

While sitting down to our romantic dinner tonight, I was reminded of why I fell madly in love with Casey from the time we first met in Jr. High.  (Although, while we were in Jr. & Sr. High, I would never have said I loved him--"we were just best friends!")  Casey was willing to go the extra mile and set the table with our romantic cups and fancy napkins.  And dinner was delicious!  We had pork steaks, loaded sweet potatoes, green beans and fresh bread.  Although the table was beautiful and the food was great, my love reminder is much deeper than this.  It came from listening to him talk!  He is such a spiritual giant and I *love* that!!!  He was telling me of his conviction to keep the Sabbath Day holy, even while he was young.  I am so blessed to be sealed to such an amazing man for eternity!!! :D

AND... after our romantic dinner finished (it becomes romantic if we get out a certain cup... LoL!), Casey danced with me in the living room even though he greatly dislikes it!  I love it though and because he loves me, we "go" dancing every once in a while.
This was our first date--Sadie Hopkins, sophomore year!

Sunday, August 1, 2010

one decision = eternal happiness

Just a little over a year ago, I made one of the best decisions of my life when Casey asked me to be his bride.  I always said that I wanted to marry my best friend but I never dreamed that it would be as wonderful as this.  One decision changed my life forever... literally, forever!  We are now working together towards Eternity! :)

Today, we taught the first lesson in the Sunday School manual.  It was interesting for us trying to come up with something different to teach because it was the same lesson that we taught earlier this summer.  We are teaching the Marriage and Family relations class and since there are only 16 lessons, it repeats rather often.  This week, I have been thinking a lot about D&C 132 and it fit so perfectly with the lesson.  I am pretty sure this section is on my top favorite list now of scriptures, especially verse 20 (but 19 is needed for a basic understanding of the blessings and promises found in 20).  It is wonderful and filled with so much hope and potential.  We talked in class today about how it is not enough to be worthy to go to the temple on just your wedding day but something you need to be worthy of everyday of your life.  We both keep working hard at life and dealing with the challenges.  The trials are not easy but the reward is great and worth any sacrifice.

I am really grateful for the opportunity that Casey and I have had to teach together to begin our marriage.  We have learned so much from the experience.  We have such different teaching styles and ideas but this has really taught us how to cooperate and adapt.  I have really learned that there is not a right way to teach a lesson, just countless different ways.  I am very grateful to have Casey's support and to be able to hold his hand during our lessons while we are teaching.  I don't know if we will ever have this opportunity again so we try to take advantage of it while we can.

Returning to the Provo Temple yesterday was lovely.  There is new carpet and color scheme and I personally think it looks more heavenly.  It was also nice resting on the brand new furniture!  It was so comfortable yet kind of strange not having well worn cushions.

I love the pink roses!!!  They are gorgeous and line the sidewalk!